By wisdom a house is built, through understanding it is established, and through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures.
From the words you just read above, we can deduce that marriage is to be built. Good marriage and marital bliss do not just happen. You must desire the best of marital relationship; picture it, design it, visualize your marriage, give it the best architectural design, and then settle down to construct what you have designed.
It takes knowledge-based work to build a home. Without knowledge, there cannot be an understanding of any process. The proper understanding shows you the steps to take. Wisdom is knowing what to do and then convincingly step out to do it, hindrances notwithstanding.
Acquiring right and quality knowledge about marriage, gives you the grace to choose right. You must know what you are looking for so as to recognize it when you see or come across it.
I’ve heard some youth, especially males, saying ‘with money you will get a good wife to marry’. It is a misconception on the side of such youths. Money without adequate knowledge about marriage leads to misplacement of priority in your choice-making. People of knowledge have the understanding of what to expect in a marriage. They recognize ‘marriage material’ (so to say) when they come across one; not beauty, not class room education, or family background.
Understanding gained through knowledge stirs up your instinct to know and recognize what is good for you. Understanding that marriage has to be built by love, patience, perseverance and determination on the part of the duo, has helped many to have a good home. For the word says, two cannot walk/work together unless they be in agreement. Agreement helps to bring unity. Knowing gives you the understanding to establish your family to be the envy of others.
One thing that could bring about steady progress in marriage is unity. This is usually achieved where there is:
(a) Mutual respect for each other
(b) The proper understanding of why couples are together and understanding of the importance of oneness of mind to achieve their set goals as partner in progress.
Unity of mind and soul and not just the body is very crucial to the life and success of marriage.
Why Unity
Change is so rapid these days that it takes couple’s unwavering focus on their goals to achieve greatness together, so that the flood of constant change does not derail them and bring them to an undesired destination.
The challenges of growth are enormous and frightening. It is so obvious now that the days of standing alone to become successful has gone for good. The word says ‘if your eyes be single, your body will be full of light’. You need a shinning, much brighter light, which a man or woman standing alone may not be able to generate. One will kill a thousand, and two ten thousand, says the word of wisdom. So you need the cooperation of your partner to shine brighter and brighter until the end of time.
What is Unity?
Unity is a state of being in agreement and working together. It is being joined together to form one unit. This meaning could be taken to be same as marriage.
What are the Reasons for Lack of Unity?
Lack of unity in any marriage relationship shows that the couples are just co-tenants. The oil has gone out of the lamp which is supposed, to show the true direction to progress, peace and contentment has been put off. So darkness, complaining, murmuring, resentment have taken over. Such couples are moving against the wind, and very soon the storm shall sway them off the right course of life.
It is difficult to enjoy unity in your marriage if you are not a man or a woman of your word. Or when you keep shifting post. When you abuse the trust invested by your spouse in you, you rupture the water that keeps your love alive. Lack of unity shows trust has been murdered. Integrity brings trust, and trust fosters unity. It will be foolish to walk with a man or woman who does not know how to keep promises. Many husbands and wives are mentally ill today because their trust was abused by somebody they trusted. Help your spouse to be in sound mind all of his/her life by cultivating unity in your marriage. It is not advisable to pitch your tent with man and woman, without ambition. Or one who is not looking at his/her future as important. Unity calls for proper analysis of things. So you must show responsibility to enjoy unity.
One Thing Is Needful
You cannot achieve unity or oneness in your marriage by yourself. For the word of God says: ‘And lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight’. Do not be wise in your own eyes. Pray the kingdom of God into your heart, your spouse heart, your home and family. Pray the wisdom of God into the affairs of your life and family. Let God know that you are relying on Him for all things. And He will step in.
Uzodinma (M O G)
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