How To Use Erotic Massage To Make Your Lady Orgasm

A sensual massage can create an erotic and relaxing experience for both the person giving the massage and the person receiving it. An erotic massage can relax a woman's body, mind and spirit through intimate touch which serves to increase her libido. Knowing how to create a truly erotic experience using massage as foreplay will not only get her into the mood and make her orgasm easily, but pretty much guarantee that she will rock your world in return. Use these erotic massage tips to provide the best massage experience that can quickly and easily re-energize you and your partner's love life.

(1) Create A Conducive Atmosphere

Light candles to set the mood with a soft light and switch off all other lights. Lighting candles can relax the spirit and state of mind. Candles can add to the effect you are trying to achieve especially if you burn scented candles. Try playing some of her favorite music in the background. The air conditioner should be adjusted to a comfortable room temperature. It should not be too cold as to make your lady shiver nor too warm to make her sweat. Maintaining a nice room temperature will allow your woman to feel comfortable even when she is naked.

(2) Keep Her Comfortable

Make sure your lady is comfortable and the bed is suitable for you to work on. You can provide a soft pillow to have her head relax on it. Prepare for the encounter beforehand by making the bed with soft fabrics. Cover the bed with a large towel to prevent massage oil and lotions from staining the fabric beneath it.

(3) Use Some Oils And Lotions

A good sensual massage should involve all the senses, not just touch. Scented oils will include her sense of smell in the experience and enhance the overall massage process. Using massage oil can smooth the glide of your hand against her body and reduce any friction that may cause pain. Some common oils which you can use are sweet almond oil, sunflower oil, avocado oil and grape seed oil.

(4) Start From The Top

Apply a few drops of massage oil onto your hands and gently rub the neck from the base of the skull using your thumbs in circular motion. Slowly increase the pressure as you rub all the way out to the end of the shoulders. It should be firm, but not too much pressure that it hurts.

Then you firmly grip her shoulders right where they meet her neck on both sides. The trapezius muscle in the shoulder is usually affected first during stress. Therefore, this zone may be tenser than other areas of the body. Hence, applying more pressure to this area would be ideal. Press your thumbs onto her upper back. Squeeze her shoulders and release. She should immediately feel a slight release of tension. You continue squeezing and releasing her shoulders as well as applying pressure on her upper back with your thumbs a few times before you move to the upper arms.

Apply more oil and begin to softly massage each of her arms. Rub each arm in a circular motion as you gently squeeze the bicep muscles. Run your thumb down the center of the forearm, increasing pressure as you get closer to the wrist. Squeeze each finger and gently pull it outward to relax her finger joints. Apply firm pressure to the palms of her hands using your thumbs.

(5) Work Slowly Down From Her Back

You can start with an up and down stroke then move on to a circular motion. Lock your elbow to straighten your arm and you lean your body forward as you press your palms on both sides of the backbone. After you press, you release and then you do this action up and down with your palms one to two times along both sides of her backbone.

Next you use larger circular strokes with your fingers near to the top of her back and switch to smaller circular strokes near the hip area. Knead on her buttocks using your fingertips. Make a switch to apply pressure using your knuckles up and down the buttocks.

When you move to the legs, you apply more oil and rub both legs one at a time. Firmly knead the calves in a circular motion. Then you use your elbow or forearm to press against the thigh as you move further down to the feet to squeeze the ankles.

Next you begin the foot massage by squeezing the sole. You use your thumb and index finger to squeeze on each toe. As you move to the tip of each toe, you gently pull on it outward to relax the toe joint. You do the same with the other foot.

You will know that you have performed a satisfactory job when your lady craves more of your massage in the future.

6 Myths About Female Sexuality And The Truth About What Women Really Want In The Bedroom

In this article you are going to discover 6 huge myths about female sexuality. So if you want to know the truth about women and sex -- read on carefully...

Myths About Female Sexuality #1: Women Don't Like Sex As Much As Men Do....

Many people think that women don't like sex as much as men, but the truth is that women absolutely love sex.

However, unlike men who are usually happy to get any sex -- women only want GREAT SEX.

Myths About Female Sexuality #2: Women Don't Want Men To Take Control During Sex

Some people believe that women want to take control in the bedroom and hate it when a man tries to do the same.

The truth is that most of the time, women want their men to TAKE CONTROL during sex. This is because women are usually sexually submissive in the bedroom and submissive people don't take control. Instead -- they follow.

Myths About Female Sexuality #3: Some Women Can't Have An Orgasm

Up to 30% of women have never had an orgasm.

However, this does not mean that some women can't orgasm. Every woman who has a brain and a vagina has the power to experience an orgasm.

As men, we need good sexual beliefs, sound knowledge of female anatomy and proven sex techniques and the ability to take control in the bedroom. When we have these things -- will have the ability to teach any woman how to have an orgasm.

Myths About Female Sexuality #4: Women Only Want Guys Who Are 'Big Down There'

Ah, the old 'size matters' myth.

The reality is that women want men who give them incredible sexual pleasure and mind-blowing orgasms.

Big or small -- it really doesn't matter. Just give your woman powerful orgasms and she'll be happy in the bedroom.

Myths About Female Sexuality #5: Women Only Want Sexually Experienced Men

Again, women don't care how much sexual experience a man has. What women really want is a man who gives them incredible sex.

Myths About Female Sexuality #6: Women Aren't As Sexual As Men

This last myth is a bad joke.

Consider this fact:

Women are capable of having clitoral, vaginal, multiple and squirting. Heck, they can even have 'mindgasms' (orgasms without any physical touching).

And you're telling me women aren't as sexual as men?

The reality is that women are way more sexual than men, but as a man -- you have to bring that sexuality out of your woman. She cannot do it all on her own.

Why Can't Men Remember Anniversaries?

Do you have trouble remembering special dates such as birthdays, holidays, wedding anniversaries? To find out why, let's look at which dates we can remember, and which we can't:

Birthdays

Every one can remember their own date of birth even though most of us have trouble remembering the actual day of our birth!

So why do we remember our birthday?

Well, presumably it's because we celebrate it every year with our family and friends, and it is a key part of every form we ever complete. If we forget our birthday, we could never get a passport or a driver's licence, get married... you get the picture!

Holidays and Other Celebrations

Most of us can remember these holidays and celebrations:

Christmas Day: 25th December
New Year's Day: 1st January
National 'Birthdays': e.g. Nigeria Independence: 1st October, U.S. Independence Day: 4th July, Canada Day: 1st July
Valentine's Day: 14th February
Remembrance Day: 11th November

Why do we remember these? Well, they are ingrained in tradition, they fall on the same date every year and, for most of them, we get rewarded with a day off work!

Most of us celebrate other holidays and religious festivals, such as Easter and Thanksgiving. These events are important to us spiritually, emotionally or just because we get the day off work to spend with families and friends! We know roughly when they occur but, because the dates vary every year (e.g. the first Monday of September, say), very few of us know the actual dates.

Other People's Birthdays and Anniversaries:

Most of us can remember birthdays for those who are close to us: family members, close friends, spouses. But it becomes increasingly difficult as the relationship weakens and most people resort to calendars and Facebook to remember friends' birthdays. As for other people's wedding anniversaries, these rapidly become forgotten and are not traditionally celebrated by non-family members except perhaps the 1st, 10th, 25th and 50th.

Why Do We Remember Some Dates?

Based on this research, it seems that the reasons we remember certain dates are:

Repetition: The event falls on the same date every year

Duration: The longer we have been celebrating an event, the easier it is to remember

Importance: How important is the event, and what is the penalty for forgetting?

Tradition: The event is religious or part of popular culture

Celebration: The more people that take part, the more likely we are to remember

Reward: Receiving gifts, or getting a day off work, appears to enhance memory!

Wedding Anniversaries Should Be Memorable

A wedding anniversary seems to meet almost all of the criteria for a memorable event. It falls on the same date every year, it is traditional to celebrate it and we receive gifts. It is the most important date in a relationship and many say it was the happiest day of their lives. Not only that, but the penalty for forgetting can be quite severe!

Why Can't Men Remember Their Wedding Anniversary?

I suspect that it has a lot to do with:

Duration & Repetition: By definition, we don't start celebrating wedding anniversaries until after we get married, so it is a new date for us and takes a while to become ingrained. So, if there's any good news, it's that the longer we stay married, the more likely we are to remember!

Support: Also, if we happen to forget, we have to rely on our friends to remind us. So for men, that means having to rely on other men to remember their wedding anniversary - imagine the chance of that!

I also think it would help if:

We were given a day off work to celebrate our wedding anniversary
We had to use our anniversary date on all government forms
Our friends would help us to remember by celebrating with us
We receive thoughtful gifts to show that we're appreciated

Why Do Women Remember Anniversaries when Men Don't?

I think the answer revolves around the emotional time and effort that women invest in planning and preparing for the wedding, that they are generally more romantic than men, better at celebrating life's important events and have a stronger network of friends that help them to remember. Of course, I could be wrong - I usually am! I'd love to know what you think - please leave a comment below.

Celebrate Your Anniversary!

I'm sure that there are some women & Men that have occasionally forgotten their anniversary. Regardless of your past record, you can put it right going forward.

So, if you have trouble remembering your wedding anniversary date, you're not alone! Look it up, write it in a calendar or set up an electronic reminder.

And, if your anniversary is coming up soon, you should celebrate in style.

Don't Be The Woman That Needs a Man, Be The Woman a Man Needs!

Are you a single lady?

Do you have a long list of requirements for your potential mate?

Are these expectations exhaustive and unrealistic?

Instead of waiting for Mr Right to walk blissfully in to your life, why not start preparing for them.

If you want a partner that is fit, healthy, ambitious, passionate, focused, driven, loving and who cares for their family, then it stands to reason that you must first become all of those things yourself.

Like attracts like, so if you want to attract someone who is beautiful both inside and out then you must reflect that in your actions, thoughts and deeds. When you fall in love with yourself it allows the whole world to love you too. Work on improving daily by being a better person while having unwavering faith that there is someone out here made especially for you. If your paths have not met up until now, it just means that there is more preparation to do.

Men need a woman who is strong and self sufficient. Not one who comes across needy or insecure. The only way to become that woman is to work within your passion. Think about the wonderful plans you had for yourself as a child, 'have you done everything you ever wanted to?' is there a class you have been meaning to take? A business that you know you should start? whatever it is get to it.

Really think to yourself 'what type of wife do I want to be' what can I bring to the relationship? Instead of having a list of expectation's for your potential partner, have a list of what you can offer instead. What can you give? What qualities do you bring to the table? How can you enhance someone else's life? Once you have the answers you will have the blueprint for the areas that you need to work on.

Maybe you need to learn how to cook? Because you want to be a stay at home mom, Or maybe you would rather be the bread winner so you have to now focus on growing you business or career? Could you do with being more patient, forgiving, loving, romantic?

Improving yourself brings great reward to yourself and those around And the result is that you become more valuable, gain self respect and build confidence.

Just think about how great you are going to look and feel when love finds you. You will be fully in Joy and ready to share your true unconditional love.

Remember 'if you haven't met your soul mate yet then it just means that this is the time to fall in love with YOU'

Work towards creating a wonderful future and the rest will follow!

'The most important relationship you will ever have is with yourself.'

To learn HOW to become the Woman a man needs.

Little Things That Make or Break a Relationship

Just as tiny drops of water make an ocean, little actions of Love and Care strengthens a relationships. It takes years to build the much-needed trust in a relationship while it takes just an action of callousness to break the bond. Both men and women need to work in tandem to complement each other in a relationship. Just telling how much you love each other is not enough. Every action of yours should speak about the Love you feel towards each other. Here are some of the things that guys as well as ladies should do to keep their bond strong day after day.

Wish your Lady 'Good Morning' and 'Good Night' Everyday. Trivial as it might sound but all women appreciate this little gesture. If she lives with you, then begin your day with a warm, cozy hug. Else, send her a lovey-dovey good morning text. This will surely be a very good beginning to her day. In addition, make sure you end your day with a Loving Goodnight text and a Goodnight Kiss. And if your ladylove is by your side, you have enough ways to say Goodnight to her.

Likewise, women should be sensitive to their partners when they return stressed after a hard day at office. Often, women overlook the fact that their partners want to relax when they come home and not be welcomed with complaints or nagging issues. A warm cup of tea or coffee, a relaxing neck or head massage, and a warm welcome at home is more than enough for men to feel blessed.

Women love to be cared for. Men should remember this and offer her to drop off wherever she is heading to occasionally like office or supermarket. This does not mean that she cannot travel or go alone. It only means that the guy cares for her and wants her to be safe.

Sharing is one of the most important building stones in a relationship. Share your day's experience, your biggest fears and happiness, and your secrets (serious ones or extreme dumb ones) with your partner. These little things help to uncover the facets of each other's personalities and help to know each other better. In addition, these revelations help to build faith in each other.

Remembering important dates is also a vital aspect that assures, especially women, how much the man in her life values her. Men are not too good with dates but the best thing they can do is save dates like her birthday or anniversary date on the calendar. Forgetting important dates is a very sensitive issue amongst most women. So guys, why give them the chance to complain?

Last but not the least, no matter how many times your lady has said that gifts don't matter, she will love it when you surprise her with gifts. Gifts do not have to be expensive always. They should complement the occasion and ooze with love and tenderness. So, always keep in mind to shower your love with pretty gifts once in a while.

Beat Premature Ejaculation Permanently With These 3 Sex Positions to Make You Last Longer in Bed

Premature Ejaculation can simply be defined as a situation whereby man comes before his woman during sexual intercourse. What an embarrassing experience! Just pray it will never happen to you if you have never experienced it. It makes you hate yourself if you happen to be a good performer, before you state performing below your usual standard in bed.

Sex is good but that is only when you can sustain erection throughout the show and make her come before you discharge. But how many men can achieve up to 10 minutes this day, about 30% to 40% experience premature ejaculation. Some don't even last beyond 2 minutes.

If you ask any man the most important thing he wants to achieve during sex, he will tell you he wants to last longer in bed. This is the only way by which you can satisfy your partner and yourself before she can call you a man. In fact you should be able to last more than 20 minutes.

So how can you prevent premature ejaculation and enjoy sex to the fullest, without using drug or lotion which can never give you the real sexual satisfaction and also injurious to your health. You will overcome your premature ejaculation once you read and put to practice the simple natural procedures that you will learn in this article. You are going to learn 3 sex proven positions that will enhance your performance and makes you last longer than 20 minutes or even as you wish to satisfy her.

If you don't already know, there are some positions that tend to make a man climax more rapidly, while others allow the passion to heat up on a slow-burner and keep you going longer.

Let us look at the 3 sex positions briefly because you're going to know how to experiment it.

� Sitting Inside Each Other Position: This position is used to stimulate your partner before penetration and still prevent you from early ejaculation until when you want to come.

� Front To Back Position: This position will give you more pleasurable enjoyment and more staying power to make you last more than 20 minutes today.

� Missionary With Twist Position: This position is good for men who climax too soon. But with this technique you will be able to hold your ejaculation until you wish to.

I don't know the cause of your own but it could have been as a result of excessive masturbation. No matter the cause of your own, be rest assured that the final solution has come.

I have personally tried these positions to observe it work. I promised you that you will last more than 10 minutes the first day you put to practice what you have learnt.

You can also experiment with different positions until you discover the one that give you pleasure and help you last longer during sexual intercourse.

The Pros and Cons of Dating A Guy From Another Country

Due to the advent of the Internet, more and more people are now getting themselves involved in a relationship with another person that is in a different country and with a different nationality. This is the reason why there are now several different sites that would allow people to connect with one another, which is also helpful to those that are involved in such a long-distance relationship setting. But before you date a foreign man in a different country, it is best that you first understand the advantages and disadvantages involved in it.

Pros

A) It gives you a chance to travel

Dating a foreign guy gives you a chance to travel to his country and learn their culture and tradition. So if you are someone who loves to travel a lot, then dating a foreign guy might work well for you. Traveling is also the best way for the two of you to bond and spend more time with each other, which gives you a chance to know each other well.

B) Financial Freedom

Most women in some third world countries are easily attracted to foreign guys because they knew that this would be their chance to gain financial freedom. They find foreign guys striking because of their ability to be a responsible partner, which is what every woman would dream of. Most foreign guys are always willing to shoulder the burden of providing for the family's needs, and thus, as a wife, your job is to mainly stay at home and take care of the kids.

Cons

A) There are cultural differences involved

When dating a foreign guy, it is highly expected that there will be some cultural differences involved, for you two will have different habits and practices, as well as diverse views on culture and traditions. Because of the cultural differences between the two of you, there will be a big possibility that you will not get along well, which can lead to conflicts and arguments. It is difficult for a relationship to last if the two people involved have different views and approach in life.

B) Long Distance Set-up

You are probably aware about the drawbacks of being in a long-distance relationship. Well, this also applies with dating a foreign guy from another country. It is never easy to be far from the person you love, so make sure that you consider this before you get yourself involved with a foreign guy from another country.

So as you see, although dating a foreign guy from another country comes with several advantages, there are also disadvantages that come with it. It is just up to you and your foreign partner on how you could work things out between the two of you, and eventually make the relationship work. But if you feel that such relationship setup is not the one for you, then you better be honest with your partner and tell him what you really feel about the relationship.

Long distance relationship requires more commitment.