It was a GREAT round of lovemaking! You probably want to doze off now but what if she doesn’t? I won’t delve into the details of WHY men seem to shut down after sex while women seem to want to do the opposite. Men and women are just different. Period. However, when it comes to afterglow there can be a sort of middle ground where everybody's is happy.
FIVE Things to Do After Sex
Go Ahead And Cuddle: Men listen, most women don’t want to start and have a whole conversation running after sex. They get tired too. However, simply turning away from them and sleeping translates to many negative things in their mind such as “hmmm, feels like they just get used for sex”. You can easily prevent this by simply hugging your woman after lovemaking. Just put one leg over her legs and one arm over her and snuggle up close. That’s it!
Side Note: I read about a couple that the man will always get out of bed and didn’t return after a few minutes. Well guess what, it turned out he was soooo warm after making love that he was sweating buckets and didn’t want to gross out his partner in bed.
Moral lesson: if you need to step out of bed after sex for whatever reason simply communicate this with your partner!
Make The Heat Burn A Little Longer: Most men think that the type of conversation women want after sex is all about “relationships”. Not true at all. Women simply want to connect further after an orgasm and really the topic of what’s being talked about is not extremely important.
As such – and to motivate you to talk after sex – why not steer the conversation into something you want to talk about. Sex positions, perhaps?
For instance, when you embrace her, whisper if she thinks she would like to try something new next time. You’re talking about something YOU like and the fact that you’re talking is what SHE likes.
If you’re more an ‘action speaks louder than words’ type of man then don’t speak and just physically communicate with her by, say, drawing lazy circles around her breast or gently kissing her neck, or simply holding hands.
Well, If You Must Shower… some men (and women too!) feel the need to shower after making love. This is definitely the case if you just had morning sex and need to dash off somewhere. Sometimes though, people want to take a shower because they got all hot and sweaty! This time, instead of taking a quick shower alone, pull your partner with you! It’s great bonding time and who knows what all that touching, soaping, and rubbing can lead to next?
Drink Up: All that lovemaking has probably made you both thirsty. Well, go ahead and quench the thirst with some COLD water. After taking a sip, be sure to lean down and put one of her nipples in your mouth! It’s sexy, good for laugh and makes her feel you’re still yearning for her.
Another good idea is to grab a glass of wine too and share it. You can then cuddle up in bed till you both doze off.
Play Some ‘Sleep’ Music: This is a tip from one of my friends who are a couple. They do both tend to be worn out and sleepy after making love. Taking a shower doesn’t fit, turning on the TV is a no-no, and neither wanted to talk about anything! The solution they found was this, they would turn on some really soothing ‘sleep music’. It relaxes them both as they snuggle up a bit after sex. And then they slowly draw away from each other (too warm to stay close!) and drift blissfully to sleep. Try it!
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